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The reveal…

// August 28th, 2006 // Just Blogging, Life

Being a single guy I decide to put up a profile in a few places. The hardest thing with a profile is defining in words what you want. So after finding a title and all the intial stuff in what defines your core, you have to really look inside and throw it all out on the page for everyone to see. In a way, blogging can be stress relief, a confessional, a sounding board, or even a rant. It depends on what kind of mood you’re in when you write. Profiles can be that way to and while admitting it on a blog can be somewhat humbling or even embarassing for all the world to see, it is what it is.

So, here’s what I put. Maybe its not so structured or in as many words but this is the gist of what I had after all the other stuff that comes before the inevitable question of “What do you want?”. Some choose to be coy, others playful and some in between. I’ve come to discover through personal growth and quite interestingly through coaching classes i’ve taken at work that the truth, while sometimes revealing to much, is usually the best way to move forward. This is me good, bad, or indifferent. It is what it is.

How I thought about it:

I am hoping to find someone to share my life with, have children with, and grow old with. In my mind, true success in a relationship can only be determined at the very last moment of the relationship and if the relationship was successful it will be until death do you part.

To me a successful relationship should contain strong communication, the ability to share, a strong love life, having individuality while still being together as a couple, having and sharing common interests and goals, as well as having respect and admiration from the other person, as well as having something the other person can respect and admire about you.

In the end, to look back on your relationship and have no regrets, knowing you did everything possible to make the other person happy. And at the end, be able to see her happier than the day you met and know that the other person made you the happiest person possible is to me, the defining point of a successful relationship. In reaching towards this I consider myself to be a diamond in the rough that is far from perfect but still working to realize all of my potential. I am hoping to find someone to share in that journey, so that we both realize our potential together.

In one form it appears:

In my mind, true success in a relationship can only be determined at the very last moment of the relationship, which if the relationship was successful it will be until death do you part.

To me a successful relationship should contain the following altogether:

Pre-marriage and honeymoon years:

- Strong communication
- Ability to share
- Strong love life
- Having individuality and still being a couple.
- Having common interests and goals
- Provide an atmosphere where both can benefit
- Respect and admiration from the other person, as well as having something the other person can respect and admire about you.

During marriage:

- All of the above while inventing new ways to keep the relationship fresh

On your death bed:

- To look back on your relationship and have no regrets.
- To look back at your relationship and know you did everything possible to make the other person happy
- To look at your loved one in the end and see her happier than the day you met
- To look back at your life and know that the other person made you the happiest person possible.

As I pursue this, I’m looking to meet fun, interesting people in and around the Austin area. I consider myself to be a diamond in the rough that is far from perfect but still working to realize all of my potential. I love a good movie, dining out, or a quiet night at home. Mostly, I enjoy good company and hope to someday define a successful relationship with someone special. Do you qualify?

I still really need a decent picture.